And Glenda, the good witch, told Dorothy “You have always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself.”
Being a woman in the business world, especially in our age group, is an unknown terrain. I was talking to my roommates last night about being a millennial woman boss, and the experiences we’ve had with lady bosses older than us. Not all the outcomes have been the same— some have been hard, some have been weird, and some have been dreamy. They both shared the shear fear previous bosses have instilled in them, or the their hardness, their unwilling demeanors, their unwillingness to give someone the leg up. I know first hand that last experience— almost being expected to stay in one position you had clearly outgrown. In my early 20s, I was in that role, in that state where I didn’t know how to move up, how to escape, how to say stop.
As our generation gets older, as we become the ones with the reigns, I think it’s important to remember that those in the trenches are not our competition— they are our reflections, our marks on the world. Nurture your employees, demand that your employer gives you that nurturing, be the change.
Scared to bring it up at work? Here are three different approaches to directly ask for you what you need:
Ask your boss for a weekly check in–– This method is the best, because at this weekly check in not only are you able to bring up the struggles you have been dealing with, but they can give you feedback on your performance. This might not always be a lengthy check in but 15 minutes won't hurt ANYONE, period. The outcome of these short check in’s is this: an establishment of trust, where you’re getting professionally nurtured (which isn’t a bad thing), and your boss is getting the opportunity to be clear and present with their expectations and how to get there. At the end of the day you will establish a pretty healthy Checks and Balances relationship.
If your boss is a little more on the serious side, still ask for a check in. In this case I would ask for a quick check in at the beginning of your work week–– present your ideas, ask for direction. More often than not that direction will help get you on your way… any reasonable boss should be willing to do that.
Relax, you’re doing the best you can. Ask questions, no question is stupid–– NO QUESTION IS STUPID, repeat that to yourself again. If check in’s are not possible, that’s not a problem, ask questions, you’re only going to perform your job correctly if you’re informed of the task at hand.
I hope this helps anyone who might have, is, or has been dealing with difficulties at their present positions!